Lady Fatima, the youngest daughter of the Prophet (sa) was very upset by the loss of her sister and so the Prophet (sa) took her to visit the tomb. As they approached the grave Lady Fatima could not withhold her sorrow and many tears rolled down her cheek whereupon the Prophet (sa) comforted her and dried away her tears with his cloak. There had been a misunderstanding over the Prophet's instruction regarding the extent of expressing one's bereavement. Omar had heard someone weeping for the martyred of Badr and then again for Lady Rukayyah and spoken harshly to them.

When the Prophet (sa) learned of Omar's harsh words, he told him it was all right to let them weep, for what comes from the heart and from the eyes is from Allah and His Mercy. He explained that it was only the excess of the hand and tongue which was forbidden because they are the prompts of satan, the stone and cursed. By this he referred to the pagan customer where mourners would beat their chest, dig their nails into their cheeks and scream in an uncontrollable manner.